Just over 15 years ago, I promised to love and honor this guy for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.
There were certain things I knew about him before we got married.
He is a creature of habit, doesn’t like surprises, and doesn’t consider himself to be a creative thinker or gift giver. “Spontaneous” is not a word that I would normally associate with him.
This is a guy who bought his mom a football for Christmas when he was a kid. 😀
He’s a man’s man.
Romantic dinners, girlie gifts or the occasional surprise aren’t part of the package, and Valentine’s Day is just another day.
It really doesn’t bother me in the least.
That’s the way my dad was, and I don’t know anyone who would say my dad wasn’t a good man.
Instead of flowers, I have financial security; I have dogs instead of diamonds, and much of our everyday life would probably seem pretty boring to some people.
I wouldn’t change a thing.
And I love that every once in a while, he’ll say or do something that surprises me and makes my heart melt. It sustains me for weeks. Or months.
Last fall we were downstairs in the Black Dog Saloon listening to music, much as we often do on a typical weekend. He has become a big Chris Young fan over the last couple of years.
“Hey, I want you to listen to this song. It makes me think of us.” he said.
A song began to play that I hadn’t heard before. I started to talk.
“No, I mean I want you to REALLY listen…to the words.” His eyes were piercing, earnest and insistent. Within seconds, I was speechless anyway.
I’ve been a rolling stone all my life
Flying all alone, flying blind
I’ve seen it all, I’ve been around
I’ve been lost and I’ve been found
But who I am with you is who I really wanna be
You’re so good for me
And when I’m holdin’ you, it feels like I’ve got the world in my hands
Yeah, a better man is who I am with you
I’ve got a ways to go on this ride
But I got a hand to hold that fits just right
You make me laugh, you make me high,
You make me wanna hold on tight
‘Cause who I am with you is who I really wanna be
You’re so good for me
And when I’m holdin’ you, it feels like I’ve got the world in my hands
Yeah, a better man is who I am with you
Who I am with you
Because of you I’m a lucky man
You’re the best part of who I am
Who I am with you is who I really wanna be
You’re so good for me
And when I’m holdin’ you, it feels like I’ve got the world in my hands
Yeah, a better man is who I am with you
Yes, who I am with you
Yes, it brought tears to my eyes, and my heart melted. It has sustained me for months. And every once in a while, he’ll play it to surprise me and even sing along, if I’m lucky and there’s no one else around. 🙂
Carmen, that is one of the nicest stories I’ve heard in a long time. You were meant for each other. It’s wonderful.
I am very lucky as well. Danny and I are very happy. I love living in Montana it’s where I am supposed to be.
We have 2 little dogs they are our children. I’m finally unpacking have not started decorating yet. Still need to get furniture for family room and dining room. But that will come in time.
Dan is am good man not terribly romantic. But I know how I am going to be treated everyday. No surprises. I love him deeply.
Pam, I think that is wonderful. 🙂 I’m so glad you guys found each other again, and that you’re happy as a clam in Montana!
That’s funny I remember when you went back home then came back to Vegas and all you could do is talk about this Jimmy guy. I knew then it was meant to be. It wasn’t long before you knew it too. I love you?
Remember when I used to call his answering machine to hear his voice during the day? ha ha Love ya back!